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Self-confidence… and its impact on humans

Sayings about self-confidence…
1 – Life is either a daring adventure…or nothing. (Helen Keller)
2 – If you don’t try to do something beyond what you have mastered, you will never progress. (Ronald. Sport)
3 – You must trust yourself.. and if you do not trust yourself, who will trust you!!??
4 – The only answer to defeat is victory. (Winston Churchill)

an introduction
Self-confidence is very important in the lives of all individuals. It is not only a buzzword; Rather, it is a real term that is closely related to absolute well-being, mental health, and the ability to stand in the face of challenges and obstacles facing a person in his daily life. It is also a term that combines thinking and caring for oneself, taking into account the concern for others and their assistance.
There have been many definitions of the term self-confidence throughout history, but the consensus has led to the fact that it is the recognition and appreciation of the self and belief in its capabilities, then acting and setting out based on the beliefs believed in, as this spreads a positive feeling about the individual in the hearts of others, and the self-confident person is Able to possess sufficient strength to carry out tasks and tasks in various forms and accomplish them to the fullest. Self-confidence results from self-respect and the courage to express beliefs, desires and aspirations.
Some believe that self-confidence is the absolute belief that the personality is free of defects, complete idealism, and clinging to completely unrealistic beliefs, but this is completely contrary to the real concept, as the real concept is to live a life in which one respects oneself with positive feelings capable of inspiring energy in the soul. Positive thoughts about oneself and the surrounding world, the ability to achieve and succeed in goals, self-acceptance and integration with the world.

First, the concept of trust in a more precise sense:
When clarifying the concept of self-confidence and its importance, it must be mentioned that self-confidence is a characteristic of a balanced person, and self-confidence can be observed when a person is exposed to a situation, or with a number of other people. Many believe that self-confidence is an innate confidence we were born with, but self-confidence is only an acquired trait, and anyone can develop it and work to support it, as no one can notice self-confidence permanently every day, but it appears in a number of Certain situations that a person is exposed to, and they are suddenly.
Here we can say that the concept of self-confidence can be defined as the individual’s ability to do something, or to achieve any important goal for him by getting rid of fear. Self-confidence is a feeling within the individual, and it serves as a positive state to support the individual’s abilities and preparations.

Second, the reasons for the lack of self-confidence
The factors that contribute to low self-confidence vary from one person to another, and the website “Psychology Today” has identified some of the reasons, which we mention as follows:

1- Genes:

Your genes, cultural background, and childhood experiences play a big role in your confidence and value. Studies have shown that our genetic makeup affects the amount of certain confidence-boosting chemicals our brain has access to, such as serotonin, a neurotransmitter linked to happiness that can dampen some genetic variations. . 25-50% of the personality traits associated with confidence may be inherited.

2- Personal life experiences:
A number of individual experiences can lead to feelings of complete uncertainty in oneself, the way we worked in our family in childhood can affect us long after childhood. For example, if one of your parents constantly belittles you, compares you to others, or tells you that you’re not getting anywhere, you probably carry these messages with you today.
Among the causes of weak personality and lack of self-confidence as well:
Bullying, harassment and humiliation play a big role in shaking our self-confidence. Childhood bullying can have an impact on your self-confidence when it comes to appearance, intellectual abilities, athleticism and other areas of your life.
Ethnic and cultural background and sexual orientation can also play a difference, if you are on the receiving end of discrimination, you may have internalized some negative and incorrect messages about your potential and whether you belong, whether male or female.
A person’s unhappy childhood Low self-esteem often begins in childhood. Our teachers, friends, siblings, parents, and even the media send us positive and negative messages about ourselves.
Poor academic performance in school may lead to a lack of confidence Difficult and life-changing events, such as a serious illness, loss of a loved one, or financial problems An ongoing health problem, such as a physical disability.
or having a mental illness, such as: anxiety disorder or depression

Third: How does lack of self-confidence affect our lives:

Low self-esteem can reduce a person’s quality of life in several different ways, including:
1- Negative feelings: Constant self-criticism can lead to persistent feelings of sadness, depression, anxiety, anger, shame, or guilt.
2- Problems in relationships: A person with destructive self-criticism may bear all kinds of unreasonable behavior from the partner because he believes that he must win love and friendship, or doubts that he is loved.
3- Fear of trying: A person may doubt his abilities or value and avoid challenges.
4- Fear of judgment: a person may avoid participating in activities that involve other people, such as sports or social events for fear of being judged negatively.
5- A person feels ashamed and nervous about others and is constantly looking for “signs” that people do not like him.
6- Develop unhelpful habits, a person may neglect or abuse himself to a great extent, and begin to tend to harmful behaviors and habits, such as: drinking a lot of alcohol or smoking.
7- Self-harm behaviors: Low self-esteem increases the risk of self-harm, and a person begins dangerous health habits, such as: eating disorder or drug abuse, and it may even lead to suicide.
8- Damage to mental health: Low self-esteem and contempt can lead to problems such as depression and anxiety.

Fourth types of trust:
There are eight types of trust and they are as follows

1- Confidence in others
Humans are social beings, which is why we need others to live better and enjoy greater psychological and emotional well-being. Having close relationships gives meaning to our lives, and having reliable people helps us to be happy. Obviously we can’t trust everyone because, at times, we can run into individuals who want to defraud us, defraud us or take advantage of us, but especially in the people close to us who have shown us that we can trust them, we must give them a vote of confidence. .
And trust is not something that comes as a standard, although some experts believe it is innate, at least in relation to our relatives, and when we meet someone, one must earn it. Fidelity and credibility are some of the variables that increase or distrust we can get in other people.

2.- Self-confidence or self-sufficiency
Self-efficacy is what is commonly known as self-confidence, a concept introduced by Ukrainian-Canadian psychologist Albert Bandura in 1986, which he talked about in his book Social Learning Theory. This well-known theory deals with the organization of motivation and human action, which includes three types of expectations: expectations of the outcome of a situation, expectations of work results, and perceived self-efficacy.
Self-confidence and self-esteem are often confused, and while they are related, they are not the same. Self-esteem is the overall evaluation a person has of himself, while self-confidence refers to self-evaluation regarding his ability to perform a task and implement a goal.
It is a concept closely related to personal development, since high self-confidence makes it possible to overcome obstacles that may arise in the way of an individual when fighting for a goal. When a person has high self-efficacy, she is very interested in the tasks she is involved in because she feels competent, sees problems as motivating challenges, experiences a high commitment to her interests and activities, and quickly recovers from her failures. Fortunately, self-confidence can be worked on and improved.
Bandura believes that in a person’s self-confidence, four important aspects intervene: implementation achievements, which are the successes and failures of past experiences, rather than their realization and recurrence. Observation or experience gained particularly affects cases where the person has little experience when performing the task. Verbal persuasion (eg, words of encouragement) and an individual’s physiological state, which includes not only physical sensations but also emotional states, influence how a person interprets a situation.

False self-confidence
Sometimes, some individuals seem to show high confidence when they are not confident in themselves. This is what is known as false self-confidence, a form of protection against the concept of low self-efficacy.
Subjects with false self-confidence can sometimes convince themselves that they trust themselves even if they do not, and they can even make positive self-talk for themselves, with optimistic statements. It is a type of self-deception that does not like personal development at all, and allows the person to By escaping from the true inner state of self-confidence that in many cases is behind the “mask”. And this kind of confidence can lead to negative consequences for the person who tests
4- . behavioral confidence
It has to do with the behavior of a person, which is the ability of individuals to act positively or otherwise, to overcome obstacles and make the right decisions that affect the behavior of the individual.
Emotional confidence
Emotions are the key to people’s well-being, and their proper management makes it possible for a person to be more or less happy. With the popularity of the term emotional intelligence, it is not surprising that we are talking about emotional confidence. Some individuals fear their own emotions, but mastering the ability to understand and interpret the feelings of others, and the ability to regulate emotions to favor interpersonal relationships with others, is possible with emotional confidence.
Spiritual Confidence
It refers to the belief that individuals have over the life that surrounds them and the context in which they move.
Simple Confidence
Some experts, such as biologist Humberto Maturana, believe that confidence can be innate. This is what is known as simple confidence, and we are born with it. It is automatic, like trust towards our parents. It is complete and complete.
Feeding confidence
However, this simple confidence can be formed throughout life and the results of experiments. Then we can maintain high confidence in other people or mistrust may appear. Fifth: How do I trust myself and what are the ways to build self-confidence? Self-confidence is the generator of energy in life, so how do we enhance confidence in ourselves? What you need to know first. Self-confidence is not born with a person, but rather it is acquired and can be strengthened, but built even from scratch. Then you must have a motivation to change and try to follow the following: 1 – Self-portrait.
The beginning of self-making begins with the self itself, and the manufacture of confidence begins with your perception of yourself; In order to build a strong and confident personality, you have to have a positive perception of yourself
Simply because a positive visualization gives you the ambition for change, the motivation to act and the patience for difficulties. 2- Love and self-esteem
This positive and dreamy image of the self comes only from appreciation and love for this self, and you should look a little at yourself that you deserve the best and love and appreciate yourself and do not put it in a humiliating position and do not offend the image of this self in front of people 3- Confidence in what you own as long as you already own it. Always know that every person has what distinguishes him from knowledge or a way of thinking or speaking, but every person must be aware of his weaknesses and strengths, and whoever realizes that quickly is the one who quickly ascends the ladder of glory; You always possess what others do not possess, and this is the natural thing; that you have different information and skills than others, and that your voice, the way you deliver, the way you walk, the way you present, etc.; What makes you ashamed of yourself as long as you excel in it? 4- Increase knowledge and experience.
Give your mind the opportunity to learn about new things, and do not hesitate to try hobbies that you have not previously practiced, the more experiences and knowledge you have, the more confident you are in yourself. 5- Communication with others and social flexibility.
The more acquaintances you have, the greater your confidence, and practice the interaction and dynamism within the group by participating in activities and sharing the opinion. 6- Enhance your knowledge and experience in a particular topic.
And you will find that people will need you because of your experience and skill in this subject, so you will become a reference for them, which will strengthen confidence in your abilities. 7- Avoid frequent complaints and grumblings and are pessimistic.
You, my dear, have to accompany the positive and stay away from the negative so that you can see life in a better and better way 8- The ability to make decisions.
You have to weigh the alternatives to make the decision easier for you. 9- Let go of fear and anxiety.
Do not worry yourself, and always encourage yourself with solidarity affirmations, I am able, I can make it easier for you, and even if the experiment was unsuccessful, you have the honor of trying. 10- Always avoid comparing yourself to others Make sure that others do not add anything to you, just as they have advantages, you have other advantages, and just as you have shortcomings, they have the same. Sixth: Belief in the sources of strength within you Sit with yourself and be honest and trust that you are able to improve day by day ….
In vain, God, when He created us, did not create us in vain. You have a goal and a goal that you must perform in this life, as long as you are alive. You should be proud of being that
San committed disobey those who follow Satan and this is in
In itself, it is a characteristic of a sane person who is not shaken by criticism from others, because you have become the sack that condemned himself and worked for after death, just as you must convince yourself, my brother, while repeating that you are a human being.
You are strong and you must know your potential in yourself …. and that you have high confidence and from today you have to bring it out. And give yourself another chance to live a better life …. Accept the challenge and never apologize for the competition no matter what and no matter how much you went through a previous failure in it …. Avoid saying that I am not qualified for this competition or that I am not good at work … Rather, trust in God and storm and try with confidence …. Then I guarantee you that you will definitely succeed.
In the end, do what you see as difficult in order to find all paths that have opened for you…. Search for everything that frightens you and break into it, and you will find that fear has vanished and does not exist. An article I made on 11-3-2021 about self-confidence
Written by: Hadi Al Hanoush

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Self-confidence… and its impact on humans